KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 16th Kislev, 5773

Criticism


Don’t criticize — give instructions. If you can’t give instructions, make suggestions. If you can’t make suggestions, keep quiet.


Don’t criticize. Mostly, it makes the other person feel bad. It embarrasses him, and he hates you for this. Even if this leads to the smallest amount of resentment, of bitterness, you don’t want it.

Give instructions. Tell him how to move forward — how to get beyond this moment, how to conclude the project — in a happy way. Help him achieve, succeed — and win the battle against being weak and small.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 15th Kislev, 5773

Great Opportunity


The opportunity to give really is an opportunity. Therefore, not only must we train ourselves to say, “It’s a pleasure to help you” — we must also think, “It’s a pleasure to help you.”


An opportunity to help others is a massive opportunity — a gift from the heavens, the secret of our wellbeing — the blessing, goodness and pleasure that enter our lives. It’s a key, a button that opens pipelines of happiness and contentment into our world.

We need almost to be afraid to let such an opportunity pass by. Then, even if we can’t give a full gift, we will give a partial gift. Even if we can’t give a large gift, we will give a small gift. And above all, we will give what we give with a smile, a kind word and a prayer for the well-being of those who receive our gift.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 14th Kislev, 5773

In a Mirror


How do you look into a mirror? Do you smile — say “hi”? Do you pull a face? Do you inspect your reflection with care, straighten an eyebrow, pull back a curl? Do you quickly look away?


In any event, we all have a certain pleasure from seeing ourselves in a mirror. We recognize the face in the glass, and are glad that it’s there.

We need, then, to do the same thing with other people. We need to look at them as though we were looking in a mirror. For, in them we may see a reflection of all that lies within us.

To look at others as we look at ourselves is to look at the world through very different eyes. Moreover, it helps us in many different ways. It frees us from jealousies, angers, resentments. And it shows us how we may love life with a new energy.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 13th Kislev, 5773

A Paradise


How can we turn this world into a paradise for others?


We can help them, bodily or with money — however conditions permit us to help them. We can praise and encourage them, boost and inspire them — at every opportunity. We can pray for them, beg the Creator to send them happiness and success — one more time.

Why should we do this? What do we profit from this? We gain a new attitude towards others, an attitude that makes our lives more pleasant and pleasurable, more exciting and energizing. Thus, even if we don’t succeed in converting this world into a real paradise for others, we do convert it into a paradise for ourselves.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 10th Kislev, 5773

To Receive


In whatever situation we find ourselves we should try to think, “How may I improve this moment? What may I give to this moment?”

Mostly, all we do, we do for ourselves. Still, the Creator uses our activities to fulfill the wishes and needs of others. So, for instance, if Mr. A opens an ice-cream shop for profit, the Creator, at the same time, uses Mr. A to supply the neighborhood with the pleasures He wants them to enjoy — the pleasures that come from eating ice cream.

But Mr. A makes it all better, for others and himself, when he focuses also on helping others, boosting others and promoting his community. His every action and word becomes more powerful and rich when his intention becomes the benefit of others. And who profits most from this enrichment? Mr. A does.

To receive, we must give. And the more we give, and the better we give — the more and better we receive.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 9th Kislev, 5773

Like Children

People — like flowers in a garden — make our world a more pleasant place. They give to us. They enrich our lives. Even when they annoy, irritate and exasperate us, they help us. They help us grow. They help us reach for greatness. More important, though, we need to focus on what we owe them — what duties we have towards them. These are two.

One: we may not hurt them in any way. We may not hurt them physically and, even more so, we may not hurt them emotionally. Any word we say to embarrass them is a crime. Worse, if we disgrace them in public, this is similar to murdering them.[1] We must treat them with care.

Two: we need to help them — influence them — for their good. As much as we are able, we should improve their circumstances, their lives, their selves. In a sense, they are our children — our responsibility — and we must care for them.

[1] Rabbeinu Yona, Avos 3.15. Mesilas Yesharim, “Pratai HaNekius”, Eshkol Publications, p.52

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 8th Kislev, 5773

Pleasant Words

Speak pleasant words. Be Polite. Be Positive. Enjoy others, even those who seemingly hurt you. Avoid cursing others, even under your breath. Enjoy your life, even when it doesn’t go your way. Avoid criticizing, complaining about your surroundings. Don’t condemn what happens to you.

Our words are powerful — the most powerful tools we have. We can use them to mock, blacken and destroy even that which good. On the other hand, we can use them to repair, heal, develop even that which is weak and poor.

When we speak in rough, tough ways, we do more than hurt others, we hurt ourselves. We hurt our self-image. We prevent ourselves from reaching the greatness that awaits us. We are the first victims of the ugly words we speak. At the same time, we are the first to benefit from the pleasant, positive words we speak.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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