The Daily Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk – 6th Av, 5769
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Why is Sexual purity so important in Judaism? Our sages called Shmiras Habris “Yesod”, meaning “Foundation”. The foundation of a building is “underground” and no one sees it, yet it holds up the entire building! Shmiras Habris is the hidden part of a Jew, it’s the real you. If the foundation of a Jew is weak, his whole spiritual structure is fragile and in grave danger of collapse. At guardureyes.com we are finally joining together, for ourselves and for all future generations, to strengthen the foundations of our people!
There is a lot of material out there on the subject of guarding the eyes and the Bris, but sometimes “too much” is overwhelming.
A little bit each day is just right, to be able to read, digest and apply it to our lives.
The booklet “Windows to the Soul” by R’ Zvi Miller of the Salant foundation, is a MAN’S PRACTICAL GUIDE TO MASTERING HIS EYES. (Right click the link and choose “Save Target/Link As” to save the PDF booklet to your computer). To subscribe to eMussar, the daily lessons of the Salant Foundation, send email to firstname.lastname@example.org
The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.
Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)
Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk
Go For Holiness (Part 1)
“Man was only created in order to delight in Hashem and take pleasure from the Divine Presence, which is the true pleasure of all the pleasures that can be found.”
The purpose of man in this world is to fulfill Mitzvot, serve Hashem and withstand tests. The purpose of pleasures in this world is only to assist a person in having calmness and peace of mind so that he can turn his heart to serve Hashem. It is fitting that everything he does should be dedicated to the Creator.”
(Mesilat Yesharim, Chapter 1)
“There are times when an involuntary reaction occurs. How can I apply the ideas that we learned to gain control of the situation?”
One of the most important things to know when an improper sight is imposed upon our view is that its grip on us will fade! The image could trigger an intense reaction in our mind. We might even think, “I can’t shake this.” However, this is no more than the force of imagination. It is an illusion, a mirage. Our attention to the image is the only fuel that keeps this image alive. Therefore, if we simply let it pass, it will dissipate and vanish. Like turning the page in a book, we can switch the focus of our mind by simple refocusing. We will see a few examples below of how to refocus.
AN UNEXPECTED CHALLENGE
Alan enters the local flower shop to buy flowers for Shabbat. The pretty female clerk tells him that the flowers he chose need special treatment and gives him detailed instructions. He wasn’t expecting this and struggles to listen without staring at her in an inappropriate way. He gains control of the situation by remembering the great merit of mastering his eyes.
The Mesilat Yesharim tells us that Hashem placed us in a dimension with many things that distract us from coming close to Him. In order to merit eternal reward in Gan Eden, we must overcome these challenges and win the war of holiness over desire.
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This list will focus less on the “addiction” aspect and more on general Chizuk in Shmiras Ainayim that anyone can use, addicted or not. This list is less intense and explicit than the first, and is appropriate for everyone.
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An elaborate FAQ page
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A section on the 12 steps
A "Kosher Isle" to help people find entertaining and more productive things to do with their time
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