The Daily Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk – 28th Tammuz, 5769
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The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.
Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)
Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk
Guidelines for Entering Immodest Areas
Applying the prohibition “Not to go to places where there are immodestly dressed women.”
“In today’s world, this law seems impossible to keep. There are immodestly dressed women almost everywhere”.
The wisdom of the Torah is eternal. The People of Israel have lived by the laws of the Torah for thousands of years. Wherever we have settled during our long exile – from Babylon to Burbank – we have observed the laws of the Torah. They emanate from HaShem’s Eternal Light and their practice is eternal and universal.
Yes, avoiding areas where women are immodestly dressed is a great challenge. However, the Halachah gives us a path to proceed. Firstly, if there is an alternative route, it is forbidden to take the path that leads past immodestly dressed women.
Yet, if there is no other reasonable alternative route, then you are permitted to walk in this area. However, you must observe the following guidelines:
1. Lower your gaze or partially close your eyes when you pass immodestly dressed women. (Bava Batra 57b, see the Rashbam)
2. Ensure that they will not be in your view for an extended period of time.
3. If a man knows that he cannot avoid looking at the immodestly dressed women, then he may not go into that area.
If you inadvertently see an immodestly dressed woman, you are not responsible as long as you didn’t intentionally look at her.
In an area of inappropriate sights, use strategies to keep your mind focused. For instance, as you enter the area, listen to a shiur on a portable device or call someone on your cell-phone. In addition, be prepared to turn your eyes away or close them as needed.
A person who looks downward or shuts his eyes when he walks through an immodest area is called “a saintly man,” in keeping with the verse (Ishaiah 33:15-16) “One who shuts his eyes from a bad image will dwell in the heights.”
TODAY: If you must be in an area of immodestly dressed women keep your eyes lowered and distract yourself with something worthwhile.
Steve has a meeting on Lexington Ave. The shortest way to get there would take him down a street that has many challenging images. In order to avoid these images he takes a few extra minutes and walks around the corner to the next street. With a small effort on his part, Steve protects his eyes, and arrives for his meeting right on time.
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