The Daily Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk – 25th Tammuz, 5769
A website for Jews struggling to maintain their moral purity in today’s world
Why is Sexual purity so important in Judaism? Our sages called Shmiras Habris “Yesod”, meaning “Foundation”. The foundation of a building is “underground” and no one sees it, yet it holds up the entire building! Shmiras Habris is the hidden part of a Jew, it’s the real you. If the foundation of a Jew is weak, his whole spiritual structure is fragile and in grave danger of collapse. At guardureyes.com we are finally joining together, for ourselves and for all future generations, to strengthen the foundations of our people!
There is a lot of material out there on the subject of guarding the eyes and the Bris, but sometimes “too much” is overwhelming.
A little bit each day is just right, to be able to read, digest and apply it to our lives.
The booklet “Windows to the Soul” by R’ Zvi Miller of the Salant foundation, is a MAN’S PRACTICAL GUIDE TO MASTERING HIS EYES. (Right click the link and choose “Save Target/Link As” to save the PDF booklet to your computer). To subscribe to eMussar, the daily lessons of the Salant Foundation, send email to email@example.com
The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.
Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)
Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk
Make a Spiritual Accounting
Rav Yisrael teaches us two other techniques for increasing our awareness of Hashem so we can effectively control our behavior. The first method is “Searching for the Truth.”
“We should endeavor to place the truth before us and use purity as a lamp for our feet. Therefore, we must look deeply into our deeds and the fruits of our thoughts.”
(Ohr Yisrael, Letter 4)
“A person who contemplates his path in this world will merit seeing the deliverance of Hashem”.
(Moad Katan 5a)
“That sounds like a good thing to do but truthfully, I’m too busy to take the time”.
When we were slaves in Egypt, Pharaoh was concerned that we would rebel and overthrow his rulership. In order to prevent us from organizing a rebellion, he placed upon us a heavy and continuous workload, as we find in the verse (Shemos 5:9): “Intensify the burdens of the people.” That way we wouldn’t have a spare minute to create a strategy.
Just as Pharaoh denied us time for reflection and action, the fast pace of modern life gives us little time to contemplate our conduct. Even if we have learned the laws regulating our eyes, it’s possible that we may have grown lax concerning some of the laws.
The Ramchal in his Mesilat Yesharim (Chapter 3) explains that the darkness of night causes two types of visual misjudgments:
(1) We cannot see a stumbling block in our path.
(2) We see something and imagine it to be something else. For instance, we see a tree and imagine it to be a man.
The nature of this world also causes two types of misperceptions:
(1) We may fail to realize that a certain behavior conflicts with Halachah.
(2) We rationalize doing an aveira by insisting that it is a Mitzvah.
For example, even though we know we’re prohibited from looking at a woman who is dressed immodestly, we may not realize that includes the female teller in the bank. After all, if we close our eyes, how can we conduct our business? So we decide that the prohibition does not apply in this case or that it’s even a Mitzvah to look at her because it’s necessary in order to accomplish our mission.
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The Guard Your Eyes Handbook.
The Guard Your Eyes Attitude.
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