The Daily Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk – 21st Tammuz, 5769
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There is a lot of material out there on the subject of guarding the eyes and the Bris, but sometimes “too much” is overwhelming.
A little bit each day is just right, to be able to read, digest and apply it to our lives.
The booklet “Windows to the Soul” by R’ Zvi Miller of the Salant foundation, is a MAN’S PRACTICAL GUIDE TO MASTERING HIS EYES. (Right click the link and choose “Save Target/Link As” to save the PDF booklet to your computer). To subscribe to eMussar, the daily lessons of the Salant Foundation, send email to email@example.com
The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.
Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)
Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk
Listen to Your Soul
Physical desires urge a man to call the impure, “Pure!” However, at the time of his final judgment before Hashem, his corrupt conduct and improper indulgences will be called “Impure!” And he will be recompensed accordingly. (Ohr Yisrael, Letter Four)
What does it mean that we are urged by our desires to call the impure, “Pure!”?
Physical desire in our generation is like a fire out of control. It is a nearly uncontrollable force of great strength and danger. Like a salesman with an “I won’t take no for an answer” attitude, it is relentless in its effort to sell us a slick catalogue of goodies with every imaginable inappropriate desire. But the lofty soul objects, saying, “This is an aveirah (a transgression).”
Shouldn’t the objection of the intelligent and sensitive soul suffice to stop the momentum of desire? Yet we often act in ways that are against our better judgment. Think about the abuse of alcohol, cigarettes, food and money. Consider the consequences of anger, jealously, and greed. How can we explain the fact that people often fail to control themselves even when they know they should?
THE FURTHEST DISTANCE
Desire silences intelligence by intensifying itself until it extinguishes the objections of the soul. That is, passion blinds a person from thinking rationally. As Rav Yisrael said, “The distance between the mind and the heart is as far as the distance from the earth to the heavens.” What we know is not necessarily what we feel, nor does it govern our behavior.
Earthly desires are so powerful that they can short-circuit our own value system. We might end up doing something that we ourselves consider inappropriate and immoral.
For instance, when a person sees an improper image, his desire is awakened to look more closely. Immediately his soul objects saying, “This is an aveirah.” The desire then counters by intensifying itself and drowning out our reason.
The wisdom of Mussar helps us understand what is taking place so we can protect ourselves. Knowing that our desires will try to stifle our soul, gives us the means to control our eyes. With our new wisdom, we can achieve the sensitivity to listen to our intellect. Now we have a chance to win!
TODAY: Remember that desire will intensify in order to drown out the voice of reason. Understand that and listen closely to your soul.
At the office, Steve sits next to Larry. Steve could not help noticing that Larry was viewing an improper image on his screen. Steve immediately turned away so that the image would not catch his eye.
“This is a battle between my soul and my body. If I follow the whims of desire, I will ruin my spirituality. If I follow the wisdom of my soul I will enhance my spiritual powers.”
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