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“The whole desirable end for the Creator from the creation He had created is to delight His creatures, so they would know His greatness and His Trueness, and would receive all the abundance and pleasantness He had prepared for them.”
—Rabbi Yehuda Leib HaLevi Ashlag (Baal HaSulam) (1884—1954), “Introduction to the Study of The Book of Zohar”.
Telling Lashon Hara to your spouse, is as Assur, as telling to anyone else (unless it is permissible see Klal 8:10). If fact says the Chofetz Chaim, it may have more severe negative ramifications.
For example if a person unjustly tells their spouse about what someone did to them, certainly that spouse will become angry and may enter the fray, fanning the flames of hatred and revenge.
No, we don’t keep secrets from our spouse, but Lashon Hara is not a secret, it is an issur. By telling, you will cause your spouse far greater harm in Shamayim than what you’d be arrested for, here on earth.
“Zachor Eis Asher Asa Hashem L’Miriam BaDerech B’Tzaischem MiMitzrayim”
The Ramban and other Rishonim count, among the Mitzvos Aseh Min HaTorah, the mitzva of remembering and saying with your mouth each day what Hashem did to Miriam when she spoke about her brother Moshe. The Chofetz Chaim in Shaar Tvunah Perek 12 says that being Mikayem this mitzva can save you from the aveira of Lashon Hara. More than just saying the pasuk, says the Chofetz Chaim, one must think about the incident in order for it to have its intended effect.
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I witnessed an upsetting interaction recently between a mother and son where the mother said “no” to everything the kid said. She made him feel like something was wrong with him for expressing his feelings.
A parent who makes a habit out of denying his children’s feelings is creating problems for that child down the road.
Today, put your point of view aside and understand where your kid (friend, boss, cousin … ) is coming from. Empathy teaches kids to trust their feelings and intuitions, and it creates sensitivity to the feelings and needs of others.