The Chofetz Chaim (1:1) says that Lashon Hara is Assur even if it is true. If it is not true then you have additional problems. It is also inexcusable even if it doesn’t cause any damage or harm to the person you are speaking about.
The Be’er Mayim Chaim brings from Shaarei Tshuva of Rabbeinu Yona (214), proof that the issur of Lashon Hara is even for gossiping about something true. The gemara in Sotah (42a) says that four categories of people will not be “Mikabel Pnei HaShechina”. Included is the group of “Shakranim” or liars and the group of Lashon Hara speakers. If Lashon Hara is only forbidden when it is untruthful, then Lashon Hara speakers are also “liars” and the gemara would not need to single them out since they fall into the category of “liars”.
“Zachor Eis Asher Asa Hashem L’Miriam BaDerech B’Tzaischem MiMitzrayim”
The Ramban and other Rishonim count among the Mitzvos Aseh Min HaTorah the mitzva of remembering and saying with your mouth each day what Hashem did to Miriam when she spoke about her brother Moshe. The Chofetz Chaim in Shaar Tvunah Perek 12 says that being Mikayem this mitzva can save you from the aveira of Lashon Hara. More than just saying the pasuk, says the Chofetz Chaim, one must think about the incident in order for it to have its intended effect.
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You’re stressed. The pressure has been building up for some time now. People avoid you for fear that you will bite them. What will it be? A valium? A temper tantrum? A little depression?
Forget the temporary solutions.
For results that are permanent, understand that the pressure is the Light coming through – trying to at least. There is something good waiting for you. You just need to trust that there is a force steering you towards what’s best, and to surrender to it.