KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 8th Teves, 5773

Forgive

“As I walked down the street, a huge blow fell on my shoulders. The pain was terrible. I swung around in fury. “Who hit me?” I shouted.

What I saw then shut me up. It was my own loving father…”1

There are two parts to forgiving others. The first is more important — this is to forgive within our hearts. In order to move forward in life — to be happy, to succeed — we must remove — we must cut out, our anger, resentment. We dare not allow this tumor to swell. It might just kill us.

It’s hard to overlook the pain others inflict on us. We suffered, and the suffering leaves a scar. Still, we have to forgive; we have to forget.

This is the Torah’s command.2

We must remember — we must repeat to ourselves — that all our suffering starts with the Creator. The Creator may afflict us — to show us, teach us, that we acted incorrectly, that we need to make repairs. Or, He may want us to pass a certain test — that we may grow as we need to grow — that we may develop as we need to develop. Still, no matter the reason, only the Creator hits us. When a man beats his dog, he uses a stick. After the man has gone, the dog may attack the stick — bite the stick. But the stick didn’t hurt him!

We must remember — we must repeat to ourselves — that any suffering we suffer starts with the Creator. Then it becomes easy to forgive the one who was but a stick. It’s easy then even to forget which stick it was. After all, it’s only a stick.

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1 The Klausenberger Rebbi, a Holocaust survivor — to explain how he was able to regain his calmness, just minutes after hearing the agonizing news that he had lost his son.


2 VaYikra 19.18

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 7th Teves, 5773

Don’t hurt them

Here is a wonderful resolution to bring benefit and blessing to our lives.

Try, at all times, not to hurt any other person — not to hurt him with an action, a word, a gesture, a facial expression, or even a thought. Try to hurt no person, whether in front of them or after they leave, behind their backs — even if they will never know it.

What do we gain with this resolution? Only a world of new friends and family, new support and encouragement, new love and strength, and the power to live with clear joy.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 6th Teves, 5773

Pleasant Words

Speak pleasant words. Be Polite. Be Positive. Enjoy others — even those who seemingly hurt you. Avoid cursing others, even under your breath. Enjoy your life, even when it doesn’t go your way. Avoid criticizing, complaining about your surroundings. Don’t condemn what happens to you.

Our words are powerful — the most powerful tools we have. We can use them to belittle, blacken, destroy even that which good. On the other hand, we can use them to repair, heal, develop even that which is weak and poor.

When we speak in rough, tough ways, we do more than hurt others — we hurt ourselves. We hurt our self-image. We prevent ourselves from reaching the greatness that waits for us.

We are the first victims of the ugly words we speak. At the same time, we are the first to benefit from the pleasant, positive words we speak.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 5th Teves, 5773

Humility

The only One we need to please is the Creator. We have no need to please any person — not father, mother, not friend, not acquaintance, not child, not lover. We need not charm anyone, nor win them over. For our every charm, our every joy, comes only from giving pleasure to the Creator.

All we need is to please the Creator. How do we do this? The secret lies in one word — humility. We need to see, to think, and repeat to ourselves, that the Creator is greater than we are.

Simple? Not at all. For everything that surrounds us, every plant, every creature, every person, is a manifestation of the Creator. Every object or even concept — in one form or another — is the Creator. As such, we need to elevate every element of the world. Within our thoughts and attitudes, we must place them over ourselves. With our approach, our beliefs, we must set them above all that we are, always.

Then, in making our world higher than ourselves, we acquire the humility, the charm and the joy to please everyone around us — and we win for ourselves the friendship, support and love we so want and need.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 1st Teves, 5773

Don’t hurt them

Here is a wonderful resolution to bring benefit and blessing to our lives.

Try, at all times, not to hurt any other person — not to hurt him with an action, a word, a gesture, a facial expression, or even a thought. Try to hurt no person, whether in front of them or behind their backs — even if they will never know it.

What do we gain with this resolution? Only a world of new friends and family, new support and encouragement, new love and strength, and the power to live with clear joy.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 29th Kislev, 5773

With Songs

“I would have sent you away with joy, with songs — with the tambourine and the lute.”[1]

None other than Lavan, Yakov Avinu’s treacherous father-in-law, spoke these words. His sincerity is small, we know — he is one of history’s great liars. Still, there is wisdom in his words. This is why the Torah records them.

“I would have sent you away with joy…” We live with other people. We interact with them. Then, suddenly, they leave our lives. We need to appreciate them while we have them — and we need to appreciate them when they leave. Then, when they leave us, it will be with our gratitude, with our good wishes. We will wish them every success.

We need to appreciate them while we have them — others add so much to our lives.

We need to appreciate them when they leave. We need to say, “If they are no longer around, this means I am entering a new era, a new realm of exploration and achievement — something exciting.”

Then, with our gratitude, we’ll wish them well — we’ll pray for their success as much as we pray for our own success. We’ll wish them every happiness in the world.

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[1] Breishis 31.27

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By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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KEEP SMILING ~ Self-Growth, 28th Kislev, 5773

The Main Thing

Do you have something to give away? Then give it away. Is there a favor you can do for someone else? Then do it. Is there a sacrifice that you can make? Then make it.


It doesn’t matter to whom you do this kindness. The main thing is that you do it. It doesn’t matter that they didn’t ask for this gift or favor. It’s enough that they will accept it, they will be happy with it. It doesn’t matter that they won’t thank you. What you need is to do a kind act for someone else. Never mind that there’s tremendous effort involved here — this only makes your merit the larger.

An awesome blessing lies behind this advice. Start giving whatever you can — whatever you don’t need, whatever you thought you would leave for a rainy day. And in this way, you release huge, heavenly blessing — a wealth of happiness and success that pours on you from the worlds above. Not immediately, not in the most obvious way, but soon — you will see — the Creator’s blessing entering your life in a magical way. There is a condition though. You must give your gift with joy. You must smile.

By Rabbi Avraham Tzvi Schwartz

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