The Daily Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk – 29th Tammuz, 5769
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There is a lot of material out there on the subject of guarding the eyes and the Bris, but sometimes “too much” is overwhelming.
A little bit each day is just right, to be able to read, digest and apply it to our lives.
The booklet “Windows to the Soul” by R’ Zvi Miller of the Salant foundation, is a MAN’S PRACTICAL GUIDE TO MASTERING HIS EYES. (Right click the link and choose “Save Target/Link As” to save the PDF booklet to your computer). To subscribe to eMussar, the daily lessons of the Salant Foundation, send email to salant@netvision.net.il
The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.
Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)
Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk
Lower Your Gaze
“When an army plans a war, the generals design a strategy. They consider every detail and prepare for every scenario. However, when the war is actually fought, there are always unforeseen events and situations that will come into play. Therefore, the generals retain a flexible posture and prepare a backup plan in order to adjust the strategy as the war unfolds.” (Ohr Yisrael, Letter 19)
Whenever we plan to battle the negative impulse regarding our eyes, we have to remember that this plan is only an approximation. When we go out in public, we have to expect the unexpected.
The Vilna Gaon would review the second chapter in Mesilat Yesharim which talks about “Watchfulness,” thirteen times before going out into the street. We are not on that level; however, it is an indication of how careful we have to be when entering the danger zone.
COUNTLESS IMAGES
Once we leave the privacy of our homes, we will be confronted with countless images that will present themselves before us. The eye is a sensitive organ that is stimulated by any image that enters its field of view. However, most of these images are unnecessary and a great number of them are harmful.
Since the intention of most of these images is to catch the eye, most of them are positioned at eye-level. Without a doubt the eye scans a wide area, and all the images in that range are competing for the eye’s attention. Unrestrained, the eye darts up and down, here and there, back and forth, reacting to everything it sees. The more stimulating the image, the more the eye will be attracted to it.
The eye does not naturally lower its gaze below eye-level. Therefore we have to make a conscious effort to lower our gaze in order to protect our eyes. This basic strategy is easy and attainable and it doesn’t mean staring at your shoes and bumping into street poles or poking along looking strange.
Just direct your eyes towards the direction you are walking. This takes in an area of about five to ten feet on our pathway. Although lowering our gaze is a wondrous and effective strategy, it is not foolproof. Therefore, just like the generals we have to have a contingency plan
TODAY: Make a conscious effort to keep your gaze below eye-level when you are in a public place.
Practical Application
You can’t imagine how effective this advice is until you try it. As soon as I started using it, I naturally removed the majority of improper sights from my view. When I walk in public, I lower my gaze a bit. I make adjustments as I go along, until I am able to avoid the majority of improper images.
At first, it felt unnatural and I thought people might say to me, ‘Hey, why are you looking downwards.’ But nobody ever notices.

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