The Daily GuardUrEyes Chizuk – 4th Tammuz, 5769

 

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Why is Sexual purity so important in Judaism? Our sages called Shmiras Habris “Yesod”, meaning “Foundation”. The foundation of a building is “underground” and no one sees it, yet it holds up the entire building! Shmiras Habris is the hidden part of a Jew, it’s the real you. If the foundation of a Jew is weak, his whole spiritual structure is fragile and in grave danger of collapse. At guardureyes.com we are finally joining together, for ourselves and for all future generations, to strengthen the foundations of our people!

There is a lot of material out there on the subject of guarding the eyes and the Bris, but sometimes “too much” is overwhelming.
A little bit each day is just right, to be able to read, digest and apply it to our lives.

Today’s Shmiras Ainayim Chizuk

The Zohar compares this world to a churning ocean and the body of a man to a ship in the sea. Therefore, man requires knowledge in order to guide himself on a straight course, avoiding mishap and losing his way. The ocean of life roars fearfully and continuously. The winds of challenge blow and the negative impulse rips about like a tornado with unimaginable force. All of life comprises great and endless tests, which can easily capsize the ship and sink it into the murky, nethermost depths.

Yirat Shamayim and the study of Mussar will prevent the body from sinking into the miry depths of desire and corrupt character traits.
(Rabbi Yitzchak Blazer, Ohr Yisrael)

The Cornerstone of a Successful Marriage

The source of the prohibition to not look at a woman if she is immodestly dressed is the verse (Bamidbar 15:39): “Do not stray after your eyes”.

What is so bad about admiring women?

The Torah’s purpose is not to deny us the joy of a meaningful relationship with a woman. In fact, one of the most important Mitzvot in the Torah is to have children, in keeping with the verse (Bereishit 1:28): “And Elokim blessed them and Elokim said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply.’”

Rather, the purpose of the Torah’s laws are to help us give our full love and attention to our wives. The awareness that your wife is the only woman permitted to you strengthens the unique and special bond of love between husband and wife.

Once we understand the benefits of the laws, we realize that they are not restrictions but reinforcements. We cherish these holy laws because they are the cornerstone of a successful marriage and the foundation for a healthy family.

Men, in general, have a strong natural desire for women. Therefore, the Torah gives us guidelines so that these inclinations do not rule our lives. Compliance with these guidelines saves us from distraction and even destruction.

The Rambam says (Hilchot Teshuvah, Chapter 4, Law 4): “There are some transgressions for which a person is not motivated to repent because he considers them trivial and of no real consequence. Amongst them is the transgression of looking at women. A man who looks at a woman asks himself, “Did I have relations with her?” Did I get close to her?” He doesn’t realize that gazing at women who are forbidden to him is a transgression because it leads him to inappropriate conduct, as the verse says, ‘Do not stray after your heart and after your eyes.”

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The GuardUrEyes E-mail Chizuk Lists

The Yetzer Hara thinks of new ways to win us over every day. What better way to combat him than to have some chizuk and a new insight every day!

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